Category: Thoughts

Who Am I? A Look at Identity and Abuse

I never dreamed that I, Vanessa Pottiger, would struggle with my identity. Growing up, I was always incredibly confident. I knew who I was – strong, beautiful, intelligent and full of love to give. Yes, maybe a little over-confident at times, but at my core, I was secure in my

The Process of Healing

The process of healing is never simple. It’s never easy. It’s never quick. A dear friend of mine asked me if I’m still healing. If I still have dreams about my past relationship. If I still have flashbacks. If I still struggle with the memories. The answer was a resounding

Traits of an Abuser: The Role of Empathy

First off, I’d like to apologize for taking so long in getting this blog entry written and posted. The more I research the psychology of abusers and the more stories I hear about experiences with abuse, the more I realize how complex and broad this issue is, and I am

Traits of an Abuser: Understanding Narcissism

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It

Traits of an Abuser: An Explanation

I don’t know about you, but I’m a dreamer. I’m a full-fledged romantic that has a difficult time taking off her rose-colored glasses. I always assume the best in people…even if their actions speak to not so heroic intentions. And this is exactly why I couldn’t see abuse for what

Let’s get intimate.

Over the past month, God has gently led me into a personal desert. He dried up my resources, He took away my crutches and undressed my wounds, so they were open, bleeding and bare. I had to sit before Him as He gave me a choice – would I stumble

Colors of Abuse: Physical and Verbal

As I sit, trying to somber myself to write this last chapter of my Colors of Abuse series, I am unable to stay serious. Instead I am overflowing with joy and gladness of spirit, knowing that God is working out all of this pain to glorify His name and bring

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